I am sure we have all had those goodie toe shoes who need to correct you for everything they see as not good ro bad, or against the rules. We have also had kissups, and who knows maybe you know one now or , maybe you are??????????????
The first portion is an article I found.
Brown nosers- signs you are one at work
1. You nod your head involuntarily every. single. time. your boss speaks. You might not know that you’ve developed this habit, but trust us — everyone else in the room is well aware. If this post has you wondering whether or not you have suck-up tendencies, paying closer attention to your body language might be a good way to start figuring it out.
2. You have “I HEART boss” paraphernalia at your desk. Maybe that mug came as a freebie at a conference or as a gag gift from the boss themself, but if you’re choosing to let it sit around on your desk, you’re basically advertising that you’re a proud toadie.
3. Most of your conversation at company events is with your boss. Company parties and retreats are great opportunities to network and hang out with your colleagues — and while they can also give you time to get to know your boss at a more personal level, you shouldn’t do so to the exclusion of coworkers who are closer to you on the so-called workplace food chain. Clinging to your manager at a social gathering makes you look standoffish to your peers and robs them of the time they may want to network with the big cheese. Not a good look.
4. When your coworkers ask for your opinion, they add, “Or should I just ask [insert boss’s name here] and save you some time?” We hope that your colleagues don’t adopt this passive-aggressive tone, but if they do, it should serve as a clear signal to you that people expect you to run to the boss every time you’re asked to share an opinion or help make a decision.
Two women high-five in an office
5. Your colleagues bet on how often you agree with your boss, laugh at their jokes, or use corporate buzzwords. Even if you don’t awkwardly stumble into an office pool about your toadie behavior (because that would be a bummer), you might want to consider taking a step back and reflecting on how often you engage in these behaviors. Laughing loudly at your boss’s lame joke halfway through a meeting or peppering every team email with words like “synergy” may be a sign that you’re trying too hard — and you don’t need to.
6. You struggle to decide whether or not to disagree with your boss. If you lose sleep over whether or not you should speak up when your manager says something you disagree with, you may be verging on suck-up. As long as you conduct yourself respectfully and professionally, in a healthy office environment you should always feel empowered to communicate honestly with your boss.
7. Your coworkers roll their eyes or stare every time you speak. This should be a no-brainer. Read the room!
8. You find yourself feeling disappointed when one of your colleagues takes the spotlight in a meeting. Often, office suck-ups are so accustomed to being the center of their boss’s attention that they feel a tug of jealousy when they turn instead to another employee, especially in public. This pseudo-sibling rivalry shouldn’t be an issue in the workplace.
9. You easily warm up to every new boss. Obviously, it’s to your advantage to get to know the person you report to, but if you find that you have a pattern of cozying up to every single manager simply because they’re the manager, it could be a sign of suck-up tendencies. Keep those relationships professional and authentic.
You see, even “perfect people” aren’t perfect.
Even highly moral, “perfect” people have problems. They have desires. They are just like everybody else.
Confession Number One:
I am not nearly as disciplined as some people might think.
Putting it in athletic terms, I’m really good at sprinting, but I’m terrible when it comes to marathons. I can stick to a budget for a few…. minutes…. I mean, months, but then it’s all over.
Confession Number Two:
Sometimes, I have to talk myself into going to church.
Yes, I’m in church all the time. But lots of times, I’m totally not feeling it. Sometimes I talk myself into it but when I get there I spend the whole time wondering why I made the effort and then I go home and scream at myself because that was the most unsatisfying couple of hours I’ve had all week.
Confession Number Three:
I can be really self-centered.See Confession Number Two. Church isn’t supposed to be about how I feel. It’s about honoring Jesus.
Confession Number Four:
Sometimes, I can be very sarcastic.
The word “sometimes” was the sarcasm in that sentence.
Confession Number Five:
When people behave in a way that makes me think that they think I’m wrong, bad or imperfect, my first reaction is to want to walk away. I’ve spent too much time trying to learn how to be perfect to enjoy feeling like I’m not.
Confession Number Six:
I don’t feel like a grown-up. I feel like I have to have approval from a grown-up for everything I want to do — and if I can’t find approval from a grown-up, then I decide that what I want to do must certainly be the wrong thing.
Confession Number Seven:
Sometimes I feel so broken and so lost in the quest to find healing and wholeness that the only thing I can think to do that might make me feel better is to eat. Chocolate. Cake. Ice cream. Honestly, what I need in those situations is to pray, scream, cry and express how angry and violated I feel — but the only thing I can do is eat.
Confession Number Eight:
I don’t know how to connect with people. Everything people say and do is filtered through this extreme sense of right and wrong and I end up either really loving somebody or really disliking them. There’s no middle ground. I don’t want to be like that. I just want to be able to be around people and listen to them and enjoy them, even though they’re not perfect — just like me.
Confession Number Nine:
Most of the time, I feel like a little girl playing dress up with Mommy’s heels and makeup. I don’t measure up to everybody else’ standards. I can’t compete. I have nothing to offer except the adorableness of my efforts in putting on the heels and makeup.
Confession Number Ten:
Really, everything in my life is about fear. And it should not be this way. Every decision is made based on fear. I don’t think I should take a trip because I might have an emergency later and I’ll have “wasted” the money I spent on the trip. I don’t talk to men because they might reject me. Or eat me. Or kidnap me. I don’t talk about certain aspects of my life with anybody because I’m afraid I’m going to have to justify it or they’re going to be angry because I did something they didn’t like.
So- there you have it. The confessions of a goody-two-shoes.
Read more at http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/2013/07/confessions-of-a-goody-two-shoes/#XBZI6hErWvBkHXAc.99
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What's the meaning of the phrase 'Goody two-shoes'?
Someone who is virtuous in a coy, smug or sentimental manner.
What's the origin of the phrase 'Goody two-shoes'?
This phrase derives from the title of the nursery tale The History of Little Goody Two-Shoes, which was published in 1765. The authorship of this is disputed. Oliver Goldsmith is the name most commonly associated with it, although the evidence that claim is largely circumstantial and is based on the fact it is considered to be in Goldsmith's style and that he had previously undertaken the ghost-writing of somewhat similar stories for cash rather than as a named author. 'Anonymous' is probably the wisest choice when naming an author of this book.
Goody Two-Shoes
The story itself is a re-telling of the Cinderella story, which itself is an example of the Christian teaching that diligence reaps its reward in Heaven - what later came to be called 'jam tomorrow'.
'Goody Two-Shoes' is the name given to a poor orphan - Margery Meanwell. She is so poor as to possess only one shoe and is so delighted when given a pair of shoes by a rich gentleman that she keeps repeating that she has 'two shoes':
"She ran out to Mrs. Smith as soon as they were put on, and stroking down her ragged Apron thus, cried out, 'Two Shoes, Mame, see two Shoes'. And so she behaved to all the People she met, and by that Means obtained the Name of 'Goody Two-Shoes,
By virtue of hard work she makes good and marries a wealthy widower - thus mimicking the Cinderella theme of virtue being finally rewarded.
People who were considered self-righteously or piously virtuous began to be called 'goody-goodies' from around the turn of the 20th century. There are a few examples of people's behaviour being called 'goody-goody' from 1896 onwards. The first example that I've found of someone being described as 'a goody-goody' comes from 1911 - in the Wisconsin newspaper The Racine Daily Journal, July 1911, in a piece with the heading A Goody-Goody:
"Philadelphia Press: Senator Lorimer according to his friends, is such a paragon of innocence and true goodness that what seems to be needed is a place where he can retire, safe from the world - and the world safe from him."
The childish exclamation of delight 'goody, goody' may derive from Goody Two-Shoes, although it could just as easily just be a form of 'oh good'.
The children's phrases 'goody gumdrops' and 'goody, goody gumdrops' began life in the mid 20th century. The expression is found in the Harold Teen cartoon strip by the American cartoonist Carl Ed in 1936. 'Goody gumdrops' is recorded, as a commonplace British children's expression, by the Opies - Iona and Peter, in The lore and language of schoolchildren, 1959:
" Cries of jubilation include: Wow! Whacko! Goody gumdrops! Lovely grub! and By gog jolly custard!"
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